Memorial Day Is Anything But Memerorble

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Hello to you all, I’ve been gone for over a month now and haven’t been writing but I can assure you… I’m back, with purpose!

Today I’d like to talk about what most of the country has forgotten, ironically on this very day “Memorial Day”. The topic of today’s discussion is none other than purpose.

What is your purpose?

Today, Memorial Day we’re supposed to be remembering those who have fallen in the many wars and battles securing our liberties and freedom. Please excuse me if you are offended by me saying so but it seems to me that Memorial Day is everything but remembrance.

Living here in southern California I can assure you that Memorial Day is nothing more then a sign that Summer is here and reason to go to the beach. I would like to note that before heading to the beach you would be hard pressed not to stop at Macy’s to pick up some new attire as they are always having their annual Memorial Day sale!

Let us assume for a moment that in a perfect world, Memorial Day wasn’t a big beach party and people actually did stop to remember our fallen soldiers. In this perfect world where we all stop pay our respects, watch the parades and television specials… at the end of the day what good would have come of it?

Basically I’m trying to figure out (1) what is the point of remembering that people have died in wars most of us know nothing about and (2) if we actually did pay our respects in remembrance and not party… would our simple “remembering” contribute any progress or advancement to mankind? After all these soldiers were fighting for our progress and advancement correct?

So back to the perfect world envisioned where we all actually do pay our respects. Simply paying our respects in my opinion isn’t good enough.

I would think that anyone who has actually died in a previous war wouldn’t want anyone to romanticize over that fact but rather take advantage of the opportunities secured for them. Some might argue that having a party, going to the beach and cracking open a Bud Light is taking advantage of the opportunities secured for them but I’m assuming anyone reading this post is educated, articulate and at the least a “C” average student… so let’s not go there.

On Memorial Day we remember those who have fought so bravely or those who were all but forced to fight, but what exactly were they fighting for? This is a loaded question I know but it is a question worth examining because after all it is Memorial Day.

On this Memorial Day do we remember those Native Americans who fought against those who came to this land uninvited? On this Memorial Day do we remember the southern confederate soldier who fought to keep slavery alive?

As you can see we are in deep waters here or a slippery slope whatever you prefer, my point being that this day deserves more than high fives, sun tan lotion, barbecues and drunk driving. Memorial Day should actually be the one day out of the year were we all collectively try to remember how this came to be, the United States and what is our purpose.

When I stop to ask myself this question, what is my purpose it is abundantly clear to me that it has nothing to do with a 9-5 job, a new car, designer clothes or putting a ring on anyone’s finger in a facade most of us continue to perpetuate. My life’s purpose or your lifes purpose for that matter has nothing to do with anyone else but rather everything to do with you.

Do you want to share your life with someone else? How about figuring out what your life is about first?

We all want to be a part of something bigger but don’t know the first thing about ourselves. I’m married to this person, or I’m from this state, or I’m an American… how can you be ANYTHING when you don’t know who you are?

Again I ask, what is your purpose?

If you think it is your purpose to have children, start a family or hold a high ranking job with a six figure income then it is time to do some serious soul searching. All of those things are secondary and cannot be truly enjoyed or realized unless you know what your purpose is.

I cannot tell you what your purpose is but only remind you that you have one. In a world full of distractions it is all to easy to forget or for that matter to have never even put the question to ones self.

So on this Memorial Day, let us forget what we previously celebrated and let us remember who we truly are. On this Memorial Day let us find our purpose in life and from there manifest a life and world worth remembering.

What is your purpose?

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Zencast 186 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.5of7, Gil Fronsdal

Speaks on what is possible with right speech, using your imagination to envision what is possible for us as individuals and your relationships with other people. Can one speak in a way that allows you and others do develop? Is there a way to speak so that there is more harmony between individuals and the community as a whole?

In any case I’ll let you listen to this Zencast and make of it what you will, as always your comments are welcome.



Zencast 185 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.4of7, Gil Fronsdal

In this episode Gil begins to talk on the ethics of right speech, this episode is more focused on what to avoid as opposed to what to act on. Gil then goes over some of the different ethics: taking care of yourself, minimizing harm for others, etc.

One of the more interesting precepts with regard to taking care of yourself is to be mindful that you never lie. This precept in particular I take a great personal interest; I’ve been especially mindful of this in the last year of my life. Telling even what seem to be harmless or little lies can definitely come back to bite you when you are most unexpected. If one is truly mindful and aware of their speech one would never lie, not even the little lies.

One of my favorite stories that Gil gives in this episode with regard to lying is that even in the society of the Devil the one precept that they follow is that there is no lying. He then explains that even in a society such as the Devil’s there needs to be a level of truth otherwise even that society wouldn’t function.

Ah yes… the truth shall set you free indeed.

In any case I’ll let you listen to this Zencast and make of it what you will, as always your comments are welcome.



Zencast 184 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.3of7, Gil Fronsdal

Welcome to number 3 of 7 in this Zencast series on mindfulness of speaking with Gil Fronsdal.

The focus of this talk is on the dangers and opportunities in speech. The idea is quite simple, if one can understand the range of opportunities and dangers in speaking then perhaps one will find it easier to communicate others. It is also pointed out that how someone speaks is a good indicator of how someone feels about themselves.

In this talk Gil says a wise person avoids what is harmful to ones self and others, a wise person engages in what is beneficial for ones self and other people. This may seem like common sense to a lot of people but when it comes to speaking a lot of the times we forget how harmful words can be.

It seems as though a wise person is someone that understands clearly what it is that causes harm and what it is that is beneficial when speaking. This understanding and awareness of ones speech brings about a wonderful ability to communicate from a place of clarity and compassion.

Enjoy the Zecast as always feel free to leave comments or ask questions.



Zencast 183 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.2of7, Gil Fronsdal

Here is the second audio Zencast on the topic of mindfulness of speaking. This particular chapter in the 7 part series is probably my favorite.

Gil starts of the conversation by reminding us that right speech requires awareness and mindfulness. He then goes even further and asks that you acknowledge the relationship between you and the person you are talking to. If you examine closely you can see that there are 3 parts to your relationship. First there is you, secondly there is the other person to whom you are speaking and lastly there is a third entity which is the actual ‘relationship’ between the both of you.

Both people have their wants, needs and agendas but if you are mindful of this then the health and vitality of the relationship can thrive because you are aware that your individual needs aren’t always what is best for the relationship.

Later Gil also asks you to look at why you say the things you do, what are your intentions? From the simple and mundane statements you make throughout the day to the more intimate conversations if you can look at why you said what you said closely and with care it will bring light to your intentions.

Gil gives a wonderful example of someone telling their friends that they found this great new restaurant and they had the most wonderful dinner. Gil then suggest perhaps if you were the person in the example there could be several reasons why you said it. Perhaps you just wanted to share the information with your friends or perhaps if you go deeper and examine it, maybe it was your intention to point out sub-consciously that YOU are a good picker of restaurants and YOU are very good at this.

The example is a bit silly but I’ve applied this practice to my own life and I can tell you first hand that if you examine why you say the things you do, you’ll find out a great deal about yourself. We’re all a bit silly!

Enjoy the Zecast as always feel free to leave comments or ask questions.



Zencast 182 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.1of7, Gil Fronsdal

Gil Frosdal begins this 7 part series on the topic mindfulness of speaking. Gil starts off by sharing some personal stories from his life to illustrate the effects of speech. He points out that sometimes one can say something they didn’t mean to say and those effects will last for a great deal of time, perhaps longer than anticipated. If you consider this then its fair to say that being mindful of what you say is very important so that you don’t say something that you will regret.

We’ve all been involved in heated debates, arguments or conversations and we’ve all probably said things to others that we later regret.

Wouldn’t it be nice to never say something you’d regret again?

After listening to this entire series on mindful speaking I’m confident that with practice and mindfulness it is possible to speak in a way that you are in control 100% of the time. The mindfulness that is required to manifest ‘right speech’ takes awareness and practice, equally listening is just as important.

One of the most helpful tips I got from this first audio lecture is to pause before you speak. Something as simple as this allows you time to gather your thoughts and compose yourself so when you do speak you speak from the heart and with compassion.

With that said I’ll leave you to the audio lecture. Please to comment if you have questions or would like to share stories of your own with regard to the topic.

Peace,



Krishnamurti Video – Can We Together Create A Good Society

This is the 2nd of 12 videos in the series “What Love is Not”, this particular video is titled “What Can We Do Together To Create a Good Society?”

In the beginning of the video -K- recaps on the previous days discussion touching on the topic of thinking together. He emphasizes how important it is to put ones own history, dogmas and beliefs behind so that the group can think together.

He then asks us to examine the very nature of thought. If we look closely we can see that thought itself has been conditioned. The very nature of thought as we know it is an evolutionary process our thoughts are always trying to do something or be something.

-K-, then asks us to ask ourselves, psychologically is there a tomorrow? If we find that there isn’t a tomorrow psychologically what then is the relationship between 2 humans?

It seems that over time we as humans have accepted the idea that gradually with time things will get better. It is also apparent that measurement has become extremely important to societies around the world. This becomes notably clear when you see the individuals mentality within a society is… what one was, what one is and what one will be. This is all measured in time.

If you can see this then one must ask is there psychologically time at all or has thought invented time psychologically?

Is it possible that thought has invented time because it is trifling and lazy? Thought doesn’t want to deal with what is happening right now, thought puts a plan together to fix whatever the problem is in the future, down the road somewhere. If you examine this closely you will see that this is how we’ve been taught to think, this is a reflection of our conditioning. It goes the same for us here in America as it does in Africa, Europe or wherever else, the root of this is the conditioned mind.

-K-, then briefly looks at the history of mankind and how we’ve tried to create perfect and peaceful societies. He compares the systems that were put in place by the ancient Greeks and Hindus. Both of these systems were independent of one another and for a time succeeded but as any system or idea that is implemented into society both of them eventually failed.

Now here we are today in present society, can we together create a good society?

If we are to bring about a peaceful and good society will it come about from some set of ideas or a system or is it something that has to happen immediately with us thinking together?

If we are thinking together is time involved in bringing about this new society or is that something our minds have been conditioned to think?

Please do watch this video and ad your comments. Tell me what you like or didn’t like about it, let talk and investigate together.

Peace.