Zencast 186 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.5of7, Gil Fronsdal

Speaks on what is possible with right speech, using your imagination to envision what is possible for us as individuals and your relationships with other people. Can one speak in a way that allows you and others do develop? Is there a way to speak so that there is more harmony between individuals and the community as a whole?

In any case I’ll let you listen to this Zencast and make of it what you will, as always your comments are welcome.

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Zencast 185 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.4of7, Gil Fronsdal

In this episode Gil begins to talk on the ethics of right speech, this episode is more focused on what to avoid as opposed to what to act on. Gil then goes over some of the different ethics: taking care of yourself, minimizing harm for others, etc.

One of the more interesting precepts with regard to taking care of yourself is to be mindful that you never lie. This precept in particular I take a great personal interest; I’ve been especially mindful of this in the last year of my life. Telling even what seem to be harmless or little lies can definitely come back to bite you when you are most unexpected. If one is truly mindful and aware of their speech one would never lie, not even the little lies.

One of my favorite stories that Gil gives in this episode with regard to lying is that even in the society of the Devil the one precept that they follow is that there is no lying. He then explains that even in a society such as the Devil’s there needs to be a level of truth otherwise even that society wouldn’t function.

Ah yes… the truth shall set you free indeed.

In any case I’ll let you listen to this Zencast and make of it what you will, as always your comments are welcome.



Zencast 184 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.3of7, Gil Fronsdal

Welcome to number 3 of 7 in this Zencast series on mindfulness of speaking with Gil Fronsdal.

The focus of this talk is on the dangers and opportunities in speech. The idea is quite simple, if one can understand the range of opportunities and dangers in speaking then perhaps one will find it easier to communicate others. It is also pointed out that how someone speaks is a good indicator of how someone feels about themselves.

In this talk Gil says a wise person avoids what is harmful to ones self and others, a wise person engages in what is beneficial for ones self and other people. This may seem like common sense to a lot of people but when it comes to speaking a lot of the times we forget how harmful words can be.

It seems as though a wise person is someone that understands clearly what it is that causes harm and what it is that is beneficial when speaking. This understanding and awareness of ones speech brings about a wonderful ability to communicate from a place of clarity and compassion.

Enjoy the Zecast as always feel free to leave comments or ask questions.



Zencast 183 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.2of7, Gil Fronsdal

Here is the second audio Zencast on the topic of mindfulness of speaking. This particular chapter in the 7 part series is probably my favorite.

Gil starts of the conversation by reminding us that right speech requires awareness and mindfulness. He then goes even further and asks that you acknowledge the relationship between you and the person you are talking to. If you examine closely you can see that there are 3 parts to your relationship. First there is you, secondly there is the other person to whom you are speaking and lastly there is a third entity which is the actual ‘relationship’ between the both of you.

Both people have their wants, needs and agendas but if you are mindful of this then the health and vitality of the relationship can thrive because you are aware that your individual needs aren’t always what is best for the relationship.

Later Gil also asks you to look at why you say the things you do, what are your intentions? From the simple and mundane statements you make throughout the day to the more intimate conversations if you can look at why you said what you said closely and with care it will bring light to your intentions.

Gil gives a wonderful example of someone telling their friends that they found this great new restaurant and they had the most wonderful dinner. Gil then suggest perhaps if you were the person in the example there could be several reasons why you said it. Perhaps you just wanted to share the information with your friends or perhaps if you go deeper and examine it, maybe it was your intention to point out sub-consciously that YOU are a good picker of restaurants and YOU are very good at this.

The example is a bit silly but I’ve applied this practice to my own life and I can tell you first hand that if you examine why you say the things you do, you’ll find out a great deal about yourself. We’re all a bit silly!

Enjoy the Zecast as always feel free to leave comments or ask questions.



Zencast 182 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.1of7, Gil Fronsdal

Gil Frosdal begins this 7 part series on the topic mindfulness of speaking. Gil starts off by sharing some personal stories from his life to illustrate the effects of speech. He points out that sometimes one can say something they didn’t mean to say and those effects will last for a great deal of time, perhaps longer than anticipated. If you consider this then its fair to say that being mindful of what you say is very important so that you don’t say something that you will regret.

We’ve all been involved in heated debates, arguments or conversations and we’ve all probably said things to others that we later regret.

Wouldn’t it be nice to never say something you’d regret again?

After listening to this entire series on mindful speaking I’m confident that with practice and mindfulness it is possible to speak in a way that you are in control 100% of the time. The mindfulness that is required to manifest ‘right speech’ takes awareness and practice, equally listening is just as important.

One of the most helpful tips I got from this first audio lecture is to pause before you speak. Something as simple as this allows you time to gather your thoughts and compose yourself so when you do speak you speak from the heart and with compassion.

With that said I’ll leave you to the audio lecture. Please to comment if you have questions or would like to share stories of your own with regard to the topic.

Peace,



What’s It Going To Take For You To Take Your Life Back?

What is it going to take for you to take your life back? When I ask this question, I see in the distance another question simultaneously arising. For me to ask, what will it take for you to take your life back implies that you had a life to begin with. So the other question that arises is, have you lived?

What is it to live, what does it mean to you? I fear for far to many people in the world the answer to that question might revolve around their work, who they know, where they’ve been, how much money they make or something to that effect. As the days go by turning from weeks to months then years (32) to be exact its gradually become clear and as of late ABSOLUTELY clear… living has nothing to do with ANYTHING I’ve been told.

From the day we’re born we go into somebody training, we’re told how to speak, what is good, what is bad, who to pray to, what people are nice and what people to be afraid of. This somebody training has another alias, its called “conditioning”. Lets take a look at what dictionary.com has to say about the word “conditioning”.

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    1. Also called operant conditioning, instrumental conditioning. a process of changing behavior by rewarding or punishing a subject each time an action is performed until the subject associates the action with pleasure or distress. (link to reference page)

That’s right you, like myself have been conditioned and the only thing worse than being conditioned is not knowing your conditioned. WAIT… actually there is something even worse than not knowing you’re conditioned! What’s worse than not knowing you’re conditioned? The one thing that is far worse than not knowing you’re conditioned is finding out you are conditioned and not doing anything about it or denying it until you’re blue in the face!

I think Pink Floyld summed it up best with the song “Comfortably Numb”.

When I was a child I caught a fleeting glimpse,
Out of the corner of my eye.
I turned to look but it was gone.
I cannot put my finger on it now.
The child is grown, the dream is gone.
I have become comfortably numb.

I’m sorry but you can have a few million dollars in the bank, a house that’s paid for in the Hollywood Hills, trophy wife, trips to Spain, Bugatti and the social life that goes with it… if you don’t recognize all of that ISN’T WHO YOU REALLY ARE… please keep it. Who wants to “live” their entire life without knowing who they really are?

These days its so easy to give your attention, your LIFE to material things. Having material things doesn’t have to be a bad thing but if you find that you are identifying yourself with them then you are setting yourself up for a rude awakening and a rude awakening is sure to come sooner than later.

The days we have here on this earth are limited and although it may seem at times that we have all the time in the world, tomorrow will be here before you know it. Before you know it you’ll be old, before you know it the friends you had won’t be around anymore, before you know it your hair will be gray and you’ll wonder where all the time went.

Its time to wake up… NOW, not tomorrow not next week but this very moment, wake up! Find it within yourself to see you’ve been led astray, recognize that you’ve only yet to discover who you truly are and the infinite possibilities within. YOU ARE the unlimited… YOU ARE the impossible, stop pretending and just be yourself. There’s no amount of money, job title, lover, wife, husband or electronic gadget that defines you… its ALL charade, don’t get distracted from your true nature.

If you’re going to play the game, play it well and play it true but don’t forget its just a game and don’t forget who you are. This is just a friendly reminder from yourself, you made the rules… you can change them too!

What’s it going to take for you to take your life back?

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Krishnamurti Video – The Nature of The Mind 1of4


Welcome to the first of 4 videos, this series is entitled “The Nature of the Mind”. Joining Krishnamurti for this discussion is David Bohm, Rupert Sheldrake and John Hidley. The video starts of with Krishnamurti asking the question, is disorder the very nature of the self? From there the gentlemen look together at the very nature of suffering and disorder in the individual.

One interesting question that comes up in the dialog is, is there a difference between physical pain and phycological pain? They also look into the pain and suffering of animals in comparison to mankind. For instance when a Lion or Tiger kills its prey is that condidered pain? We as human beings go on killing each other on a daily basis in wars, fighting, etc., how is that different from the animals in the wild? In other words, perhaps it is in our nature to be violent and cause suffering?

This dialog is full of very interesting and profound questions and are examined with great care by all four men. This is just the first video in the series, stay tuned for the other videos to be posted this week.

As always you are encouraged to comment on the video and ask any question that may arise.

Peace,