Zencast 183 – Mindfulness of Speaking Pt.2of7, Gil Fronsdal

Here is the second audio Zencast on the topic of mindfulness of speaking. This particular chapter in the 7 part series is probably my favorite.

Gil starts of the conversation by reminding us that right speech requires awareness and mindfulness. He then goes even further and asks that you acknowledge the relationship between you and the person you are talking to. If you examine closely you can see that there are 3 parts to your relationship. First there is you, secondly there is the other person to whom you are speaking and lastly there is a third entity which is the actual ‘relationship’ between the both of you.

Both people have their wants, needs and agendas but if you are mindful of this then the health and vitality of the relationship can thrive because you are aware that your individual needs aren’t always what is best for the relationship.

Later Gil also asks you to look at why you say the things you do, what are your intentions? From the simple and mundane statements you make throughout the day to the more intimate conversations if you can look at why you said what you said closely and with care it will bring light to your intentions.

Gil gives a wonderful example of someone telling their friends that they found this great new restaurant and they had the most wonderful dinner. Gil then suggest perhaps if you were the person in the example there could be several reasons why you said it. Perhaps you just wanted to share the information with your friends or perhaps if you go deeper and examine it, maybe it was your intention to point out sub-consciously that YOU are a good picker of restaurants and YOU are very good at this.

The example is a bit silly but I’ve applied this practice to my own life and I can tell you first hand that if you examine why you say the things you do, you’ll find out a great deal about yourself. We’re all a bit silly!

Enjoy the Zecast as always feel free to leave comments or ask questions.

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