What’s It Going To Take For You To Take Your Life Back?

What is it going to take for you to take your life back? When I ask this question, I see in the distance another question simultaneously arising. For me to ask, what will it take for you to take your life back implies that you had a life to begin with. So the other question that arises is, have you lived?

What is it to live, what does it mean to you? I fear for far to many people in the world the answer to that question might revolve around their work, who they know, where they’ve been, how much money they make or something to that effect. As the days go by turning from weeks to months then years (32) to be exact its gradually become clear and as of late ABSOLUTELY clear… living has nothing to do with ANYTHING I’ve been told.

From the day we’re born we go into somebody training, we’re told how to speak, what is good, what is bad, who to pray to, what people are nice and what people to be afraid of. This somebody training has another alias, its called “conditioning”. Lets take a look at what dictionary.com has to say about the word “conditioning”.


    1. Also called operant conditioning, instrumental conditioning. a process of changing behavior by rewarding or punishing a subject each time an action is performed until the subject associates the action with pleasure or distress. (link to reference page)

That’s right you, like myself have been conditioned and the only thing worse than being conditioned is not knowing your conditioned. WAIT… actually there is something even worse than not knowing you’re conditioned! What’s worse than not knowing you’re conditioned? The one thing that is far worse than not knowing you’re conditioned is finding out you are conditioned and not doing anything about it or denying it until you’re blue in the face!

I think Pink Floyld summed it up best with the song “Comfortably Numb”.

When I was a child I caught a fleeting glimpse,
Out of the corner of my eye.
I turned to look but it was gone.
I cannot put my finger on it now.
The child is grown, the dream is gone.
I have become comfortably numb.

I’m sorry but you can have a few million dollars in the bank, a house that’s paid for in the Hollywood Hills, trophy wife, trips to Spain, Bugatti and the social life that goes with it… if you don’t recognize all of that ISN’T WHO YOU REALLY ARE… please keep it. Who wants to “live” their entire life without knowing who they really are?

These days its so easy to give your attention, your LIFE to material things. Having material things doesn’t have to be a bad thing but if you find that you are identifying yourself with them then you are setting yourself up for a rude awakening and a rude awakening is sure to come sooner than later.

The days we have here on this earth are limited and although it may seem at times that we have all the time in the world, tomorrow will be here before you know it. Before you know it you’ll be old, before you know it the friends you had won’t be around anymore, before you know it your hair will be gray and you’ll wonder where all the time went.

Its time to wake up… NOW, not tomorrow not next week but this very moment, wake up! Find it within yourself to see you’ve been led astray, recognize that you’ve only yet to discover who you truly are and the infinite possibilities within. YOU ARE the unlimited… YOU ARE the impossible, stop pretending and just be yourself. There’s no amount of money, job title, lover, wife, husband or electronic gadget that defines you… its ALL charade, don’t get distracted from your true nature.

If you’re going to play the game, play it well and play it true but don’t forget its just a game and don’t forget who you are. This is just a friendly reminder from yourself, you made the rules… you can change them too!

What’s it going to take for you to take your life back?



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Very nice post 🙂 Not to forget: getting rid of conditioning is one thing, getting rid of the ego is another. It sits inside us and filters our perceptions, it shapes our belief system and thus our destiny.

Comment by Carina

Hello Carina!

What an interesting observation. I wonder if there is any difference in the ego and conditioning? That is to say, I wonder if our ego is the result of our conditioning? Is it possible that if we were not conditioned to be individuals, separate, etc., there wouldn’t be an ego there? I wonder if we by nature are egoless?

What do you think?

Comment by casualtyofdesign

I’m happy to explain: you are right, a part of our ego is a result of our conditioning (education, society, media etc.) and thus develops later in our lifes. Another part consists of our emotions, instincts, our experiences and memories – it’s our identity. Siegmund Freud thought we were born with an empty mind (tabula rasa). C.G. Jung said we would all share a collective psyche (memories of our ancestors stored in the collective unconscious). So parts of our consciousness existed already when we were born, thus we are not egoless by nature. I wrote about a lot about these things on my blog, you’re more than welcome to check it out and to ask further questions 🙂 http://before-it-is-too-late.blogspot.com/ Carina

Comment by Carina

you are right, parts of our ego are conditioned. But we are not egoless by nature, the ego is our identity and it seems that we are born with it. I wrote a lot about the ego and consciousness on my blog, you are more than welcome to visit it and to ask more questions 🙂 Carina

Comment by Carina

Carina, Carina…

I just popped by your blog and I’m digging it, when I get home tonight I’m going to dive right in. It appears that we have a lot in common I’m glad that we have crossed paths. If you would like to trade blog roll links let me know and I’ll add you to mine.


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